Every gay man I know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him. But I just felt like a piece of meat. None of this is new, of course.
No mention of versatiles at all? So how do Ogas and Gaddam, as neuroscientists, account for this phenomenon?
The campaign to make us suffer worked. Rejection from other gay people, though, feels like losing your only way of making friends and finding love. That means a whole host of human behavior and social stigma comes into play—guys will fib in order to get laid, or because of what others might assume about them based on their preferences.
Lots of guys claim to be tops or versatile, but at least some of them are faking it. By the late s, he was a social worker and epidemiologist and, like me, was struck by the growing distance between his straight and gay friends.